Second Acts

January 31, 2006

Volume 2, Number 1

" Did you know that only 20% of resolutions made are accomplished?"



This Issue ...



"develop strategies to achieve the success you desire."






By Michele Alexander Owner of 4 The Perfect Fit Coaching and Consulting

Happy New Year!!! I love this time of year. Why!!! Because most people including myself feel we can make changes and accomplish anything in our lives. We acknowledge this when we make resolutions, which symbolize a time of personal self-realization and the desire to make things better in our lives.

Have you been able to make inroads on your New Years resolutions? Excellent if you have but if you haven't no worries, you can still make it happen. Did you know that only 20% of resolutions made are accomplished? Well this issue of Second Acts is devoted to you accomplishing not only the resolutions you made this year; but creating the success you want and deserve in your life. How? The articles will focus on personal missions and visions of your life and why they are important to realize the goals you discover and the tools you need to achieve to fulfill your purpose and/or objectives in life.

Let's Get Started!!!

Personal Mission Statements A Road Map To Success

By Michele Alexander

Have you ever felt that I know what I want; yet I don't know what I want, and I don't know the steps to get it? Express it? Achieve it? However, we all see many people who have dreams and they realize success in almost everything they express? Why, because they have a mission on they are on a mission and that is the difference. Companies use Mission Statements to communicate what they do or sale, identify their costumer, and attract resources and businesses. You can do the same thing by creating a personal mission statement.

A Personal Mission Statement will allow you to evaluate your core values, strengths, weakness and accomplishments and give a voice to your dreams. This will empower you to develop strategies to achieve the success you desire.

How do you write a personal mission statement?

  • Document your accomplishments. It's the only way to gain incite to what's things are truly important to you
  • Access your contributions to your community. Ask yourself why do you feel they are contribution? What makes them important to you?
  • Inventory your core values. Only you can ask yourself what are you ideals are and what and why they mean so much to you.
  • Now write your personal and professional goals. Identify if they are short or long team and realize they are only your goals.
  • Ask yourself what makes you feel good. The things that put a smile on your face are easier than the things that are a chore.
  • Finally, daydream. Most of us censor ourselves even in our dreams. Remember anything is possible in the beginning.

Now you are ready to write your statement. It should be simple and include:

  • What you want to do
  • How you want to do it.
  • Who you want to be or serve and
  • How you want to develop.

Take your time and try to make it one line. It will become your mantra, your inspiration, and your roadmap to achieving your dreams.

Id love to see your statement and hear your feedback this article. Email them to Michele Alexander at

Sign up for the Free mini ecourse Six Steps to Writing a Personal Mission Statement. Email and start today.

and remember

Very often we are our own worst enemy as we foolishly build stumbling blocks on the path that leads to success and happiness.

--Louis Binstock--
American rabbi one of the most prominent Reform rabbis

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How To Make Your Wildest Dreams A Reality
(And Still Stay A Little Bit Sane)

By Craig Lock

According to Bill Gates there are 3 keys to success in any new venture:

  1. Being in the right place at the right time. (You could well be already there!)

  2. Have a vision of where the industry/business you're working in is going!

  3. Taking Massive and Immediate Action! (It is time to act!)
    "The future belongs to those who believe in the quality of their dreams." Was it Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe, the famous German poet and philosopher who said those wise words?

Here are my 17 steps to fulfilling my wildest dreams...

    Know and accept your weaknesses and faults (we all have them), but even more so your strengths, abilities and gifts. Build on your strengths and try to minimize or improve on your weaknesses. An honest, objective analysis of yourself is the first step in preparing you for success and realizing your dreams. Celebrate you for just being you, a unique creation.Aim for mental clarity about what you most want out of life. Think about it and write it down. If it's happiness, what do you mean by happiness: a sense of belonging, recognition, independence, love, money or security? If you don't know where you are and where you want to go with your life, how will you ever get there? Aim at nothing and you're sure to hit it.

    Don't apologize for getting passionate. What excites you the most? If you are not enthusiastic and excited about what you're doing, your path in life, you'll never get others to share your dream. Once you find your passion, you will have found your POWER, MEANING and PURPOSE in life.

    Always be aware. Negative people will poison your dream faster than anything else. Motto: "If you can't be positive, shut up!" Try and stay positive...even in the face of negativity.

    You're going to be misunderstood, misquoted, hurt some feelings, perhaps even lose some friends (for the time being). Motto: "What other people think of me is none of my business!" Repeat this statement to yourself, especially when you doubt or feel discouraged.

    To thine own self be true. (Shakespeare's "Hamlet", act I.3) This is supremely important, no matter what the world may think of you. The masses are conditioned to mediocrity and other people's success can make them not feel inferior for their own insignificant little lives Accept yourself. Learn from others -- but don't be intimidated by them, or pretend to be someone you're not; because... "We are most effective when we're being ourselves."

    The only real mistake is one from which you learn nothing. Motto: "Far better to try something and fail, than try nothing and succeed!"

    Realizing your dream may be the hardest, most uphill thing you'll ever do. A truth ... "You can't coast uphill." The key ingredient in success is never giving up. Keep on keeping is 99% made up of failures" (remember Edison's persistence!).

  8. STAY HUMBLE (no matter how successful you may be.)
    Don't ever think you've made it and arrived - there's always a lot ahead, more to do, higher mountains to climb. Motto: "The greatest way to do our thing has yet to be discovered!"

    There is incredible power in yourself (in the form of the unique human mind), but far more so in the forces of God, the Universe. Make them work for you by living your life in harmony with these natural forces. Like positive energy attracts like. Enough "spiritual" thoughts! Back to the "real world" and you. Avoid developing an inferiority complex (Who am I, a 'nothing'?"). Don't be filled with feelings of self pity ("nobody likes me"), or think "I can't do it". These negative thoughts will steal your dream away from you.

  10. HAVE FUN
    Nothing is ever as bad as it seems - don't get too solemn, or serious or too downcast when things go wrong (as they surely will from time to time- Murphy's Law!). Take a leaf from Thomas Edison's book: "I never did a day's work Laugh at life's funny moments...and there are plenty of them. "The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes, but in liking what one does." -J.M. Barrie

    There will be plenty of times when you'll face the death of your dream. When failures, disappointments, and criticisms come you need the will and faith to keep going. Remember: We learn far more from our failures than our successes, because failures show us what doesn't work. So, failure is just one step closer to ultimate success. Often the difference between failure and success is trying just one more time, picking yourself up off the canvas after being knocked down time and again.

    Success on its own (i.e., for its own sake) will pollute and corrupt you - it's a dead end street unless you have meaning in your life. The years of struggle breed fortitude and character. The gold may be an inch away from the seam, where your fellow miners have given up. You need to succeed for a reason, a purpose, a cause that's bigger than you! and IF (a very big if) you've fulfilled all the above requirements...

    They are all around you. There are no permanent problems-- only solutions, possibilities and opportunities. The Chinese word for 'crisis' means 'danger' + 'opportunity'.

  14. If you truly believe in what you are doing, DEVELOP THE 'WILL TO SUCCEED' with absolute commitment.
    It is not enough to just survive, aim at being the best you can possibly be! Keep your dream big, bold and even outrageous--don't water it down or settle for mediocrity... even if others think you are crazy! Trust in your judgment, your intuition and your creative mind to overcome any obstacles. "Be bold and mighty, unseen forces come to your aid."I love that quotation.

    I've been living that for years. "Foolish fellow!"

    This is the hardest obstacle for most people to conquer, including this writer.

    and finally...

  17. NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAM! Be PATIENT. Don't be in too much of a hurry to achieve your goals and dreams, because it may take you far longer than you think. As the saying goes, 'Winners never quit and quitters never win.'Always remember, when you think you've exhausted all your possibilities, you really haven't--there's always another way, a better way...and even more importantly, there's always another day!


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Be persistent and never quit.


Life is not a dress rehearsal, it's the main event.


It is within you and within your reach, if you JUST TAKE FIRST STEP.

Good Luck

Craig Lock

P.S: As the "ancient Chinese philosopher" said so wisely...

"The journey of a thousand miles starts with a ... flat tire and a broken fan-belt."


About The Author

Craig Lock has studied and written extensively on the subjects of self help, personal success and how to live your dreams. Craig is a writer, who believes in encouraging and helping others to find their talents and gifts, strive for and accomplish their dreams in life, whatever they may be. He truly believes people can overcome obstacles, rise to any occasion, and accomplish their entiredream with enough faith and commitment.... # and at least he's still a "little bit sane" after finding and following his dream for many years (at least he thinks so!).

Creative Writing Course My various books* are available at: * Fiction and non-fiction, novels on South Africa, travel, humour, inspiration, self help and money books (money management and steps to financial success). All proceeds go to needy children - MINE! "Life is about finding, then following the dream... and one's dream/vision comes to reality through believing in yourself, making the commitment and then creating it." - Craig Lock and

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Seven Strategies for Inflating Your Success
By Regina Barr

When I ask people to describe characteristics of successful people, they often identify characteristics that they associate with others but not themselves. This never ceases to amaze me.

In a recent Red Ladder survey, respondents indicated that the top two drivers for success were 1) having a strategic vision (87.5%) and 2) having written goals (50.0%). Further, 62.5% indicated that their definition of success was "work that is both challenging and rewarding." Interestingly, no one indicated that their definition of success was "being financially secure."

We all have the capacity to be successful. The question is, how successful do you want to be? Here are some key characteristics exhibited by successful people. Most successful people:

1. Have clearly identified their core values/ mission/ vision. These comprise the compass by which key life decisions are made. If a mariner didn't have a compass, how successful do you think she would be navigating the world's oceans? You need a compass too.

2. Create a personal definition of success. This is not what society defines as success. Your personal definition of success becomes your map and it goes hand-in-hand with your core vales/ mission/ vision. If you don't define success, how will you know when you achieve it?

3. Have clearly defined, written goals. According to a Yale Study, 3% of the graduating class of 1953 identified goals and 20 years later, those who had written down their goals appeared happier and more content. Further, the same 3% that had written down their goals had achieved more wealth than the remaining 97% of their classmates put together! Need I say more?

4. Develop competency in negotiation. During interviews with successful women in business, negotiation was cited as the most critical factor in getting what was wanted both personally and professionally. Successful people understand that negotiation is not only about getting what you want, but getting what you deserve. If you can't or won't negotiate the results and outcomes you want for yourself, then who will?

5. Embrace risk-taking. People who are comfortable taking risks typically experience increased autonomy, heightened self-esteem, a more positive attitude toward life and an increased sense of personal power. Most successful people I speak to, see and seize opportunity. They recognize that taking risks typically involves personal growth. Those with an aversion to risk often link risk with failure. What is failure? Simply a judgment about events. So, instead, view risk as a learning opportunity. Remember, no risk, no reward!

6. Engage in continuous learning. One successful man I spoke to indicated that, "continuous learning is key if you want to get ahead in life." Does that mean formal education? It might, but for most, it simply means staying current in their field or maintaining expertise in an area of passion. And if your field of expertise also happens to be your area of passion, then you are really onto something!

7. Think big. Successful people aren't afraid to think big. During a recent seminar, I asked participants to write down one goal they would like to accomplish and to think big. One woman shared with the group that she was a professional speaker and that her goal was to replace Oprah Winfrey when she retires in 2008. I followed up with her recently and discovered that she is currently in discussions with a local broadcast company is being considered for an afternoon TV program. That's the power of thinking big. Woody Allen once said "eighty percent of success is showing up." To inflate your success, it's the other twenty percent that is most critical, that is, hard work combined with the desire to succeed. If you do nothing else, carve out time to craft a strategic vision for yourself, write down your goals and remember, think big!

About The Author

Regina Barr is a business consultant and speaker with a special passion for helping women achieve leadership success. Regina helps companies develop strategies to attract, develop and retain women leaders.

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Give Your Dreams Substance
By Josh Hinds

Setting goals is wonderful; it confirms that we've taken those first awkward steps towards attaining what we desire in our lives. The simple fact that you've taken the time to plan out what you want to achieve puts you in a distinct class. Amazingly very few people take the time to keep a running list of goals. Sadly, even fewer people actually work their goals. So take the time right now to give yourself a little pat on the back! You deserve it.

You're part of the elite group of people who have chosen to take an active role in their own success. If the whole idea of goal setting (and goal achieving) is a new one to you, don't worry; the important thing is that you've decided to take the bull by the horns and get started!

Here's a technique to add substance to the goals you've set! Remember, the more real the goal is in your mind, the easier your subconscious mind can get around your desires and jump into action and start helping you realize them!

This technique assumes you've already decided on the things you'd like to achieve. If you're not there yet then take the time to record your goal, dreams and the action steps you believe are necessary to reach them. Be sure to give yourself the room to adjust those items as needed. It's a journey and one that you should derive enjoyment from. Remember, you're taking the word chance out of the equation and are taking an active role in the reaching the destinations you set for yourself.

After you've listed out your goals and dreams, the next step is to actually visualize yourself reaching your intended goal. It is through visualization that we can actually program ourselves to reach that which we desire.

My friend, it's one thing for you to say, "I want to get a new job", and quite another to say, "In my dream job I will be in charge of marketing at a growth oriented company. I will find employment in such and such an industry. To reach this destination I will send out a certain amount of resumes and do follow-ups with those companies until I secure the employment I am looking for".

The idea is that you're rehearsing these events in your mind. You're giving them vast amounts of power because as the saying goes. That which the mind can conceive, it can achieve. When using visualization with your goals try and do it as vividly as you can. The more real they appear the better.

Another technique is to imagine yourself sitting in a movie theater. See your goals and dreams playing out before you on a large screen. Find a technique that works for you (the key word being what works for you).

Hopefully from the example above you see the difference that a little visualization can play in making our goals more "concrete" in our minds? To say I want to find my dream job is one thing, but to identify it and imagine myself doing this job (and taking the necessary steps to become employed) creates an added energy that will propel you towards making it a reality!

Here's to your success, Josh Hinds

About The Author

Josh Hinds of specializes in helping people to achieve maximum success and live the life of their dreams -- receive his motivation newsletter by going to Josh is also the co-founder of

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Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.

--Jim Rohn--


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